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This is a very good question indeed. I would not mind if you would disagree with me here.

This is my vantage point on the matter.

Some issues can be viewed from a spiritual standpoint even with the carnal realities.

I notice this discourse in Matthew 19 of the Scriptures,

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"And it came to pass, that when Jesus had finished these sayings, he departed from Galilee, and came into the coasts of Judaea beyond Jordan;

2 And great multitudes followed him; and he healed them there.

3 The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?

4 And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female,

5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?

6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

7 They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?

8 He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.

9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.

10 His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry.

11 But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given. 12 For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.

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There is a host of spiritual themes in this discourse between Jesus and the Pharisees. In the entire discourse, Jesus is making himself very clear. Of note, are a few versus: verse 5,6 & verse 9. In Versus 3,7 you will find the 'questions' that the Pharisees have for Jesus. Similiar to today, people were divorcing for 'any and every cause'. The question is, how are these unions or the lack thereof substantiated with God who originally made man male and female? That answer lies in v 4,5

"And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female,

5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?

6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

I Cor 6 says that "even when a man joins himself to a harlot, they are one."

v 16 "What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh."

God has joined together male and female from the beginning, from his original design in the garden.

In marriage, the two become one. And no man can separate 'what God has joined together' (later**).

Thus, It does not matter how many writings of divorce Moses allowed, or that are being served today, it stands that what God has joined together (male and female) no man can separate (put asunder).

Hence, the union is not manmade (such as a writing of divorce), it (the marriage, the oneness, the union, the joining) is spiritual. Even the spiritual (not religious lol) union with the harlot.

For example, I have been married on two occasions. My first husband was guilty of fornication (v9). I, in turn (lol), gave him a writing of divorcement. The action carnally is justifiable, yet, if it had not been for the case of fornication, and I had married another, v9 says that would be committing adultery and whosoever marries that person who has been put away (carnally), commits adultery.

So.... why? Why, other than in the case of fornication, is the person comitting adultery who marries the person that has been married?--Because spiritually, the two (will always be) are one; God has already said, that no man can separate what is one or joined together.

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**[The popular argument that God has not joined everyone together (in cases where me and thee are not seeing eye to eye) becomes irrelevant because again, God observes even the joining with a prostitute as indeed still be considered oneness ] I Cor 6:16

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To return to this blog topic, I will go back to the fact that I have divorced my husband, and honestly, not necessarily for fornication (another topic, I may have to report at the gates) as in my first marriage. The difference in me having sex with him as opposed to another stranger is that we are one. Even though I have divorced him, we are one compared to the above discourse. If I marry someone else, I would be committing adultery becuase we are one. Though we are divorced (carnally) we will always be one (spiritually)(not poetic here).

v9, the only reason that my second marriage is not adulterous is because of the exeption of fornication. Adultery is so haneous that God has put in place this exeption, howbeit, the guilty parties fornication still does not have the power to 'put asunder' the one bond.

If my current husband chooses to marry someone else, rather than spending his time righting the wrongs in this marriage, he would be guilty of fornication, hence adultery.

Take the Poll, Do you think this is a Sin?

January 29, 2022 Current Poll Results:

Some of your answers:

- "yes"

- "If your still having sex, why did you divorce him."

-"Divorce, ordinarily, ends the matrimonial relationship (spousal responsibilities, sexual duties, legal contract, religious covenant, etc) between the two person. Sex with the ex partner, therefore, would be sin."

-"You are NOT married. You terminated the right to have sex with him."

-"having sex with someone you are not legally married to is a sin even if that person used to be your spouse."

-"The only way to make sex with that person right is to ask for forgiveness & remarry that person. "

-"both marriage & divorce require you to follow man-made laws"

-"Sounds like you are basing your thoughts on marriage just on sex alone. However, both marriage & divorce require you to follow man-made laws also…using an ordained person to marry you, signing a marriage certificate & with divorce you have to go through legal proceedings as well"

-"the Bible does tell us we are to obey the laws of the land."

-"The fact that you’re looking for comments makes me wonder if you’re not questioning your own actions as to whether it’s right or wrong in God’s eyes. I wonder this because anyone can twist scripture around to fit & justify their own behavior & lifestyle even when it’s scripturally wrong."

-"This a great question as I’m sure you’re not the only one in this position & have these types of questions. That being said, not trying to be mean, but are you asking this as a serious question for others to ponder or are you looking for validation from others that will justify your actions?"

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